Feel like you and your partner are drifting apart? Here's three tips that transformed my relationship

Alongside my journey of self-discovery, I have also been on a transformation in my relationship with my partner over the last few years. We have gone from a place where I used to feel frustrated and that we were drifting apart and even after 8 years, we didn't really know each other, I felt like I was on my own journey and he was being left behind

 We've always had a great sex life to be honest but I remember always saying to him that we were great in bed but outside of that, it was like we were strangers.

 Its only over the last few weeks that I've really appreciated how far we have come and it’s the reason why I am so passionate about helping couples reconnect with each other, it really is no fun when you are living with someone that you don’t feel connected to.

 So here are some of the key things that have changed within our relationship and made us fall in love and for me, I think it’s actually for the first time:

Talk to each other and say how you REALLY feel

This is so key. If we can't be authentic and explain what you are thinking and feeling, how can your partner feel comfortable to be themselves too? All that happens is you are both wearing a mask and you lose touch with who YOU are. The thing is and what we don’t necessarily acknowledge, is you can't connect deeply with your partner if you are not connected to yourself.

Plan quality time for each other

This used to feel like a chore for us, we would get so stressed as we felt like it was something we HAD to do and the plans were really rushed so when the date night finally came, we didn't really enjoy the time together. Now we plan quality time and ask each other what they would like to do so when we do have the joy of child free time, it really does feel like quality and is something that fulfils both of us.

Stop pushing each other to Change

I used to be a right nag, constantly telling my partner that he needed to read the books I was reading or do the courses I did, that he needed to change and stop not living his life in the way he was. You know what, it NEVER got me anywhere. He never did any of the things I did and I think even if he was tempted, he wasn't going too because I was telling him to do it.

So I stopped pushing and he started to doing more to light him up, found his own way to enrich his life and he has grown as a person alongside me, not my way but his way and that was so fulfilling for him

We have both grown as a result of these things and it has really helped us connect as a couple too and have to say it feels great.

Relationships evolve all the time, we are continually changing as individuals but as long as we keep communicating, you can grow together too.

 Happy connecting x