Why self-pleasure is key to your happiness and vitality for life

So this weekend I attended a course which was all about self-pleasure and orgasmic empowerment and it opened me up to a whole new realm and was another new experience for me.

In my life, I’ve had a lot of pleasure from others, through food, through music, through spending time with those I love but never from myself, well not to be a point of fulfilment anyway and I always knew it as an area that I was due to explore.

I remember the first time I touched myself and realised that it felt nice to do that to myself. I remember it so well, I was in the bath, no idea what age I was but I know that I felt so naughty and almost ashamed that I was doing it, I told myself that it was wrong and then I never did it again.

I remember speaking with a friend and she mentioned that she couldn't wait to get home to self-pleasure. I told her I didn't do it and she nearly fell off her chair, what do you mean she said, you don't touch yourself? I then felt ashamed that I didn't.

In my twenties, I got myself a rabbit (one of the famous vibrators at the time) at an Ann Summers party, I remember when it arrived thinking what the hell do I do with that, I was mortified. I used it with my partner and never on my own. 

When my marriage broke up, I tried again but my mind just wouldn't shut up...now it was ah what a shame you have to do it on your own, why are you so desperate for an orgasm, should you be doing this Kerry. I stopped trying.

Then last year when I discovered Tantra, I realised it was an area that I was still avoiding and if I now really loved myself, why wasn't this part of my life. Whenever I tried to self-pleasure, I could never do without some other kind of other stimulus...using toys, watching porn or being watched. There is nothing wrong with that but I knew then I was in my head or I was trying to get to a goal, to release the frustration I felt or to meet the yearning that I felt deep inside my yoni and after I orgasmed, I was still left unfulfilled.

When I saw the course, I knew that it was for me, this is what I have be looking for, to be empowered by my own orgasmic vitality. We all have the tools to do this and it seems absolutely crazy to me that this is not something that is embedded into us. Well it is for some of us, I'm sure but I also know we are a nation of self-critics and to touch ourselves, to love our bodies can sometimes bring up shame, guilt, embarrassment and even disgust, I have felt all those things but this weekend I felt so beautiful. My body felt so amazing, I felt sexy, I felt vibrant and I felt alive.

Yesterday, I felt my G spot and my cervix for the first time. In my work, I have felt other women’s but never my own. I explored them and I gave them love and they thanked me. Did you know that your yoni has a voice of it's own, I would really invite you to try and listen to it. It really does tell you when it’s happy or also when it's not.

I wrote this afterwards:

I felt my G Spot for the first time and it felt aroused and bigger then I imagined

I felt the beauty of it, in all its forms, the beautiful ridges, felt its energy, felt it pulsate and felt the life force within it

My yoni enjoyed it and the peacefulness inside, like the sunshine has just popped from behind the clouds

I felt the waves of relaxation as my body softened. I felt my yoni expand, felt its opening. It thanked me for taking my time, for being gentle and acknowledging how it wanted to be touched

Wow how beautiful to have met myself like this for the first time, I felt alive but this feels so different, slower and softer like a rose bud just beginning to open

Today we discussed the importance of breath, sound, movement and visualisation...our mind and bodies are super powerful and I found myself in orgasmic states just using sound, I think I could actually make myself orgasm with my voice alone.

We did another guided self-pleasure practice today and the space was held so beautifully, I felt myself surrender and I feel so proud of myself.   I moved and rocked my pelvis, I let myself say what I wanted to say, I never held back, It wasn't about reaching orgasm, it was about experiencing pleasure. I loved how it made me feel. I felt so liberated and my whole body was pulsating with pleasure

I wrote this after we had finished:

Wow I did that all by myself, I found my own pleasure with my fingers and I have felt that fulfilment within me. 

To just enjoy touch, to really listen, to expand my throat and voice and say what I wanted to say. I pleasured myself and was not in my head but in my body

My body is beautiful

My energy is mine

 I have all I need within me

 I am a butterfly and I am free

 Free from myself and any of the expectations I have always put on myself

I'm flying higher and find myself on another level once again
Kerry you are truly amazing, I love you

I can't believe I am saying these things about myself, this is a huge shift in me and it still bring ups feeling of, can I really say this stuff out loud, but I know this is my truth and part of my journey

As beings, we spend so much time rushing around, what if we made self-pleasure one of our priorities like eating, drinking and brushing our teeth. It's been a part of my life for a couple of years now but not like this and I'm so excited now to experiment with all what I have learned this weekend, I have it all within me, it just needs to be tapped into and awakened.

My world has already been expanded to new levels from tapping into my sexual energy and there are still areas that I know I want to explore but imagine how much more I can manifest if I made it part of my world every day. And it doesn't necessarily mean intimate pleasure either, pleasure is a huge area and first you have to identify what pleasure actually means for you?

I have so much to share and part of my mission is to empower others to truly love themselves and the first step is to understand what's getting in the way of them letting that resistance go. I would love a world where everyone is empowered to love who they are, every part of them, what a wonderful world that would be, based on the foundation of self-love and orgasmic vitality.

I chose this life, who would like to join me?